we had the luxury of spending time with the ones that we love. Aunts, uncles, cousins, moms, dads, brothers, sisters and grandma were all represented. A basic and constant barrage of coffee, food, wine, tea, beer and vodka, the general consensus was a smile.
True to Saskatchewan form, we spent most of our time sitting around the kitchen table, telling stories. After about twenty minutes into our “visit” we decided to keep a mental note of the tales that were being told. There were happy stories, sad stories, “when I was your age” stories and “remember that time” stories. Without even making it up, we learned that our grandma really did “walk four miles to school, after she milked the cows” and that she “met my grandpa at a dance where he was playing the guitar.”
There was no scowling, no eye rolling, no raised voices and no exasperated tones. Faces smiled, eyes cried happy tears and heads leaned back with laughter.
Grant it, life isn’t always this sunny. We live lives that face challenges daily, speed-bumps out of nowhere and incidents that inspire “are you kidding me?!” moments; taking these realities into consideration, it would make sense that whenever it’s possible, we avoid inviting negative energy in; we acknowledge this is difficult.
We’re surrounded by the idea of feeding off of other people’s failures. Just take a moment to read the headlines standing in line at the grocery store. “Kim and Kanye over for good!” or “Blake goes back to Miranda” We call these magazines guilty pleasures, but we rarely ask ourselves what inspires our pleasure . . . why does that knowledge make us happier?
This isn’t where we point our finger, this is where we look in the mirror. We’re all guilty of it, at some point in our lives; telling a story that was good for nothing more than inspiring a twinge of “guilty pleasure.” Conniving over coffee, whispers at the water cooler, or tales told behind one’s back; we can do better.
Each of us are lucky enough to be blessed with a life that’s being lived; let’s focus on living it in a way that supports dinner table tales.