We always make a point of starting posts like these by clarifying that this isn’t us pointing a finger. . .this is us looking in a mirror. If something happens to resonate – we’ll take that as a win.
The idea for this post actually started as we were into the fifth dimension of Instagram; some intense “investigation” was taking place, some might call it creeping. We make a point of keeping in the loop on uber successful blogs and Instagrammers. How do the ones with ALL of the likes do it?
Like we’re sure many of us are guilty of, the investigation leant itself to critique.
I bet she was born with those straight teeth. I can do that. We’re way funnier! They only have that many followers because they’re sponsored. I could do that if all I had to do was workout all day, too. I mean she’s gorgeous, but she looks hungry.
If you know us at all, you’ll hopefully acknowledge that 95 percent of our critique was meant to be funny and just between us sisters (or at least it was until now . . . shit).
The other 5 percent is representative of a dark place and a nagging tendency that’s harder to swallow than it is to let out: jealousy.
Of course we don’t like to admit it, perhaps it shames us to say things like this out loud, but the reality of the matter is we get jealous of people, their things and their lives.
But if this is a universal truth and we can all look at each other admitting honestly that we’ve felt jealous of people, the shame isn’t really necessary. Jealousy is an emotion that we as humans experience involuntarily. The key then, becomes the difference between feeling jealous and acting jealous.
Feeling jealous is understandable and is representative of the distance between where we are and where we want to be.
Use this sensation as a point of inspiration. If someone gets there first, it just means it’s possible.
So, at all costs, try not to be that person. The person that questions someone’s success instead of celebrates it, that doubts efforts and assumes handouts, that feels the world owes them something just as it gives others too much.
We all have a story, a struggle and a depth that goes far beyond the surface jealousy lends itself to. Wanting someone to have less of a light won’t make theirs dimmer, nor will it make ours brighter.
What a brighter world it would be if we all glowed together.
While we were insta creeping, we stumbled upon this pretty incredible clip from one of our favorite women on the planet – Chelsea Handler. Be sure to watch the whole thing.
“You have to understand that what you have is completely different than what [someone else] has. What you have no one else has. So there will be a place for you. Don’t think that because someone got something, that you’re not going to get something else. There’s room for everybody.” Chelsea Handler.